An alarmist title for a real social problem: let’s talk today about attention but also “about” attention. These little everyday details that make all the difference. And to illustrate the point well, I have chosen to discuss with you different occasions to say ” Happy birthday my love “. For the more pragmatic among you, I can assure you that the article will not be a mushy novel, but still fragrant with a hint of romanticism. Without transition let’s start…
Let’s talk about the context
The more the years pass, the more the rhythm of our lives is accelerated. No sooner have we wished “Happy New Year” than it’s already time to pose for another season and then another and here comes another new year. Sometimes we have the impression that it happened very quickly and wonder what we have accomplished… What we could remember from these days that are already behind us. And beyond personal accomplishments, there are things that are more or less easily remembered: these are the celebrations.
This observation is valid for a single person but also in a couple. There may be a double question “what happened in my life” AND “what happened in my couple”. Where it can become annoying is when you have a feeling of nothingness by asking yourself these 2 questions. However, birthdays can be those celebrations that punctuate your years of living together and remind you of your moments of happiness.
I should point out, however, that these are not the only moments. Let’s say rather that it is “at least” good opportunities to do things well. Or fail miserably…
One wonders why this focus on birthdays indeed because after all, there is also the feast of lovers, the new year mentioned above, or even religious holidays, sporting events… After all, some of these events come back every year. Well yes, but they are less personal and that changes everything.
Your couple is a fragile ecosystem in the effervescence of the world around it. It is important as for a plant to give it a minimum of attention to allow it to continue. And more to make it bloom, but that’s another topic.
Several birthdays several opportunities
Yes there are several except in very special cases but you will see when you think about it there is no surprise, the whole thing is to think about it.
The birth date
This is the most common but also the one on which you really have no room for error. Forgetting the date of birth of the person who shares your life or of your children can send a very bad message. Giving the impression that you don’t care enough for the person to remember that date. And even if you have a thousand things to think about, you won’t have any excuses because even the insufferable boss who is giving him a hard time may have thought of wishing him thanks to the reminders of social networks. And do you remember his ex? I think you have understood where I am coming from.
However, in some rare cases, personal or cultural, it may be inappropriate to wish this birthday and remembering it then becomes a mark of consideration.
Your wedding date
Are you united by the sacred bonds of matrimony? Rejoice, this is the perfect opportunity to celebrate this union each year by remembering this special day and what it means to you. Waking up to the person you love and saying “happy birthday love of life” may seem redundant. But ask the question to the couples you know who have been together the longest, most will tell you that each year is unique…
In the same style there is also the date of the marriage proposal . It’s already less easy to remember, just like the event mentioned in the next paragraph, but the impact is almost guaranteed. Couples who choose to renew their wedding vows quite often do so on the anniversary date of one of these 2 times.
The date of your meeting
Some will say that it gets a lot tougher but this date, if you remember it, it can really make a difference with past relationships. Remembering the circumstances of a meeting is already good but quite easy in many cases. But remembering the date is something else. So it was at a concert, for a friend’s birthday, and the exact date was euuuuh….
The art and the way to say happy birthday my love
There are other dates I could have mentioned like the first kiss but the important thing is that you get the idea.
Finally, I would like to dwell on how to wish for this. Above I indicated that the fact that it may be redundant does not necessarily remove romanticism. However, I would like to point out here that it is important to be involved despite everything. At the beginning of the article I mentioned the fact that it is the personal touch that adds value and my opinion remains unchanged on this point.
You may find beautiful romantic messages on the net. It’s a great way to find inspiration, but nothing beats personalized, sincere attention. The reference to a specific time. The reminder of a conversation that seemed innocuous. If you send a different message every year but you’re never there, it won’t have the same weight…
Before looking for the perfect gift, offer your heart, share what you may not say enough. Remember that life is unpredictable and the opportunities to express how you feel are numbered…