- Don’t confuse speed with haste.
- “She said yes to me in front of the Eiffel Tower, it was magical!”
- The famous engagement ring
- The weather: when to make a marriage proposal?
- Family approval
- What do you know about your partner’s culture?
- What is your state of mind?
- And in fact? How do I succeed in my marriage proposal?
- Which knee to put down for a marriage proposal? (Bonus)
- One last tip!
A marriage proposal is a special event and should be treated as such. And if you read this article it’s a safe bet that you agree on this point.
It marks the start of a long journey with your partner that deserves to be treated with some careful planning.
I’m not saying that you have to have every detail under control, because the unexpected can hold nice surprises. But, I’m pretty sure you’ll agree that some of the items on the following list are worth considering to put the odds in your favor.
Enough chatter here we go:
Don’t confuse speed with haste.
You met this person on social media. From 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. you receive poems like never before.
This time for sure it’s love at first sight!
After a week you start talking about moving in together, honeymoon, Caribbean cruises…
If this story seems exaggerated to you, well tell yourself that it is not that much.
It is said of love that it makes you blind and I must say that I quite agree on this point. Sometimes the proposal is won in advance but it’s everything that comes after that is a failure.
You can find the right person in many ways and express how you feel in many ways before you go down on one knee.
But beyond a possible scam, haste is really a point that can make you miss your marriage proposal. If the person in front doesn’t feel ready or has the feeling that it’s happening too quickly, you increase your chances of getting a “No!” .
However the reverse is also true. Don’t wait for the breakup to hope to reverse the process by attempting a marriage proposal…
Think about it!
“She said yes to me in front of the Eiffel Tower, it was magical!”
Location should be at the top of the list of factors to keep in mind when planning your marriage proposal .
There are certainly a thousand and one ideas that will go through your head regarding the place.
Restaurant, beach, or maybe even stadium during an important game. But whatever your choice, ask yourself the right questions.
Is your partner comfortable with crowds, for example. It would be a shame if this ended in an anxiety attack… This is also a point covered in another article on small group marriage . But I digress.
So we were saying… Doesn’t the place evoke a bad memory? This little forgiven infidelity, for example…
It’s sometimes good to consider a new framework different from everyday life. But there’s nothing stopping you from choosing a place that’s particularly meaningful to both of you. Like the place of your meeting, your first date or your first kiss.
Your marriage proposal is an opportunity to send a strong message. “ I want to spend my life with you ”. But it’s also, why not, the opportunity to say “ I haven’t forgotten ”. Whatever your choice, as far as possible try to go there before to avoid unpleasant surprises.
Ah yes speaking of location: proposing to your partner during a parachute jump can seem wonderful… But I strongly advise you to wait until you are on the ground to put the ring on your finger. 😉
The famous engagement ring
How can you miss your marriage proposal with the ring will you tell me? The size of the stone? The number of stones? The overall cost?
No no none of that. Some people like to say that size doesn’t matter, well here I assure you it’s quite the opposite. But in this case the size in question only concerns the hands, and more precisely the finger that will receive this ring.
It is a very bad effect to propose with a ring having a very unsuitable size. And on the contrary, aiming straight shows your attention to detail. Of course you will probably have to be tricky for this and perhaps ask for help from his friends, or parents. But the game is worth the candle, isn’t it? However, if you make a mistake don’t panic, most jewelers will say “Yes” if an adjustment is necessary.
But concerning the ring, there are other points to take into account. In particular a possible allergy to certain materials. If, for example, your partner doesn’t wear any jewelry, it might be something you should check.
Also, if you decide to opt for a very original engagement ring , make sure that the person to whom you offer it will be ready to wear it. Even around the neck under a T-shirt… Otherwise it would be a real shame.
Also take care that your partner does not notice the box of the ring before the big moment. I have also noticed that many people are now opting for small, ultra-flat and discreet boxes like this one available on Amazon so as not to let anything show. A small detail to avoid spoiling a surprise.
Finally, if you plan to put an inscription on your wedding ring , think of something clear, not subject to interpretation. Avoid thinking of a message that can be reused if things don’t go as planned. It would be losing. And above all, carefully check the engraving when you pick up the ring at the jewelry store. It would be a shame to ask Nicky with a ring that says “C + J forever”. Very soon on the site a complete article will be dedicated to the choice of an engagement ring to help you in your research.
The weather: when to make a marriage proposal?
This time I think you know what I’m going to write. Because yes the weather can really ruin everything.
Especially if you’re going to get down on your knees when it comes time to propose . With or without an umbrella, a downpour when proposing is especially beautiful in the movies and much less in the facts.
However, embarking on such a moment can also be a mark of determination. I’m quite mixed on this point, to be honest.
Above all, think of a plan B in the event that the weather is not favorable when all the other elements are in place.
Oh yes ! With the weather goes the outfit. Know how to highlight yourself while choosing an outfit in which you will be comfortable. Asking to marry is an exercise that can very quickly increase your stress. Don’t overdo it with clothes you don’t feel good in.
It is no longer relevant for a young man to ask his father for the hand of a young girl, will you tell me? After all times change, it even happens nowadays that it is women who kneel down .
That’s true enough, but are you sure that’s what the person you’re going to propose to also thinks? Do you know his parents or did you subtly dodge every opportunity to meet them?
Far be it from me that if you don’t have this approval it’s a waste of time. But be sure of one thing, if for your future half it is important to have the approval of his family , trying to avoid this step will not play in your favor. At best at the critical moment you will suffer a temporary or definitive refusal. At worst it will resurface with every argument after your wedding…
You should try to find out his opinion on the subject. Besides, there may be reasons behind this.
What do you know about your partner’s culture?
The specificity of your partner’s culture is not something you can afford to ignore. Knowing her will help you do things right.
Each culture, region, religion, country and social class has a different way of celebrating marriage and the steps that lead to this event. There are many different and fascinating traditions and customs that people around the world follow.
In some cases this involves the exchange of gifts between families and couples, for example. It’s a form of respect to know how to be attentive to this sort of thing.
“If the practice of a religion is part of the daily life of your future half, you should seek to know if there are particularities linked to the union of 2 people” someone told me. And one might think that this advice is only valid in the case of two different cultures, but not only.
What is your state of mind?
Am I making a mistake? We barely know each other ! Which knee to put on the ground? What if I get a “No” in public? This diamond may be too small… I think I forgot what I wanted to say… I wasn’t writing an article myself?
Stop! Stop! You already have one knee on the ground and your laces are done. It’s time to say what’s on your mind.
This may seem contradictory to you after all that has been said, but be prepared to forget all the previous paragraphs. Every couple is different and every situation is too. Keep in mind that like all rules these too are made to be broken.
If when you wake up you can stay 1 hour watching him snore thinking back to your little shouting matches with a smile on your face. And that when his eyes open, you just want to tell him “ I can’t imagine my life without you anymore ” so go for it. Even without a ring it can be worth it.
Avoid doing it anyway after a drunken evening, the message may not be fully received ^^.
More seriously, if you share a real bond, whether it’s been in your head for a while, or you’re already on the point of getting started. Without your mother repeating it every day of course… Once in front of the plane door, don’t think too much… Jump!
One of the best ways to screw up is to never make up your mind to do it.
And in fact? How do I succeed in my marriage proposal?
Deciding to propose is sometimes one of the most stressful times in a couple’s life. And I’m not exaggerating in saying that for some people it’s even more so than marriage itself.
Many people would like to have the perfect recipe to get the “yes!” so anticipated. And on the net you will easily find guides that will present you with the most romantic, original, funny marriage proposals, in the form of a letter or otherwise. (I’ll put a small selection on video a little further down).
But there is no perfect way for this. No foolproof methods. Just inspiration maybe like on this page .
It’s an important decision that we generally take alone in the hope of being two at the finish. So if you really want to put the odds on your side, think first of all about making him happy. Ask yourself what this person would like or dislike. If on a daily basis you already make him want to share your life…
Because after all this proposal is more a question of substance than of form. I have witnessed intimate marriage proposals on the beaches of Mexico… But also in the midst of relatives, friends and passers-by in the middle of Hong Kong… And surely you have already seen a person answer “Yes!” before the question is even asked…
The way of doing things is important but it is well before asking the question that a lot of things are at stake.
Nevertheless, as I mentioned a little earlier, it remains an opportunity to send a message. So if you’re apprehensive about this exercise, the best advice I can give you is: Train yourself and stay yourself. Be authentic! Take notes if it helps you there is no shame in that.
Which knee to put down for a marriage proposal? (Bonus)
Several times I have been asked the same question… Which knee to put on the ground to make your marriage proposal and not miss it ? Here is what I was able to find on the subject. The short answer is: the left knee. The box of the alliance in the left hand ready to be opened with the right hand.
And why will you tell me? It is above all a tradition. Putting the knee on the ground is a “submission” form. A way of saying I offer you my life as certain men did in front of their king when becoming a knight, ready to give their life for him.
According to some theological works, putting the right knee on the ground is reserved for God. Depending on your beliefs you can choose whether or not to follow the traditions. Be careful not to get stuck on the ground if you have knee problems. And avoid putting the 2 knees, the pose is much less elegant than with only one.
One last tip!
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Between us, I doubt that the presence of a professional photographer can prevent you from missing your marriage proposal if it is doomed to failure…
However, if he witnesses a “YES!”, this can be the start of a series of memorable shots for you. Photos are the best way to keep a memory alive for centuries. But not just anyone’s photos, especially in the age of smartphones when everyone has become a photographer.
Hire a professional photographer who will perfectly capture high quality images of the day you signed up…
I usually say that in the choice of your wedding photographer you will not have a second chance. But in fact yes. If you call on someone to immortalize your request, this is an opportunity to get an idea of what you would like to reiterate or avoid on the wedding day.
Besides, this article was written to help you in your research.
Express yourself in comments: What did you think of the article? What would be the ideal marriage proposal for you? And if you already did, did everything really turn out the way you imagined? I leave you with a little Top as promised.
See you soon.