Wedding proposal: how to avoid going wrong?
A marriage proposal is a special event and should be treated as such. And if you read this article, it's a safe bet that you agree on this point.
This marks the start of a long journey with your partner that deserves to be treated with some planning care.
I'm not saying that you have to have every detail under control, because the unexpected can hold great surprises. But, I'm pretty sure you'll agree that some of the items in the list that follow are worth considering to put the odds in your favor.
Enough chatting, let's go:
Do not confuse speed with precipitation.
You have met this person on social networks. From 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. you receive poems like never before.
This time for sure it is love at first sight!
After a week you start talking about moving in together, about honeymoon, Caribbean cruises ...
If this story seems exaggerated to you, well tell yourself that it is not that much.
It is said of love that it blinds and I must say that I quite agree on this point. Sometimes the proposal is won in advance but it is all that comes after that is a failure.
There are many ways you can run into the right person and express how you feel in many ways before you drop to one knee.
But beyond a possible scam, haste is really a point that can make you miss your marriage proposal. If the person in front doesn't feel ready or has the feeling that it is happening way too quickly you increase your chances of getting a "No!" .
However, the reverse is also true. Do not wait for the breakup to hope to reverse the process by attempting a marriage proposal ...
Think about it!
"She said yes to the Eiffel Tower, it was magic!"
Location should be at the top of the list of factors to keep in mind when planning your marriage proposal.
There are certainly a thousand and one ideas that will go through your mind when it comes to the place.
Restaurant, beach, or maybe even stadium during an important match. But whatever your choice, ask yourself the right questions.
Is your partner comfortable with a crowd, for example. It would be a shame if it ended in a panic attack… This is also a point addressed in another article on small group marriage. But I digress.
So we said ... Doesn't the place evoke a bad memory? This little infidelity forgiven for example ...
It is sometimes good to consider a new framework different from everyday life. But nothing prevents you from choosing a place that is particularly significant for both of you. Like the place of your meeting, your first date or your first kiss.
Your marriage proposal is an opportunity to send a strong message. “I want to spend my life with you”. But it is also, why not, the opportunity to say “I've not forgotten”. Whatever your choice, as far as possible try to take a look before to avoid unpleasant surprises.
Ah yes, speaking of place: ask your partner in marriage during a parachute jump may seem wonderful .... But I strongly advise you to wait until you are on the ground to put the ring on your finger. 😉
The famous engagement ring
How can you miss his marriage proposal with the ring you say to me? The size of the stone? The number of stones? The overall cost?
No no none of this. Some people like to say that size does not count, well I assure you that it is quite the opposite. But in the present case the size in question concerns only the hands, and more precisely the finger which will receive this ring.
It is of a very bad effect to make your request with a ring having a very unsuitable size. And on the contrary just aiming shows the attention you pay to the details. Of course you will undoubtedly have to be tricky for this and perhaps ask for the help of his friends, or relatives. But the game is worth it, right?
Another point to take into account is a possible allergy to certain materials. If, for example, your partner is not wearing any jewelry, this may be something that should be checked.
Also, if you decide to opt for a very original engagement ring, make sure that the person you give it to is ready to wear it. Even around the neck under a T-shirt ... otherwise it would be a shame.
Finally if you plan to put an inscription on your wedding ring, think of something clear, not subject to interpretation. Avoid thinking of a message that can be reused if things don't go as planned. It would be losing. And above all, carefully check the engraving when you collect the ring from the jewelry store. It would be a shame to ask Nicky with a ring with the inscription “C + J forever”.
The weather: when to make a marriage proposal?
This time I think you can imagine what I'm going to write. Because yes the weather can really ruin everything.
Especially if you plan to put on one knee when proposing to marry. With or without an umbrella, a downpour in when to apply it's especially beautiful in the movies and much less in the facts.
However, embarking on such a moment can also be a mark of determination. I am quite mixed on this point to tell the truth.
Consider especially a plan B in the event that the weather is not good while all the other elements are there.
Ah yes ! With the weather goes the outfit. Know how to highlight yourself while choosing an outfit in which you will be comfortable. To propose is an exercise that can quickly increase your stress. Do not add more with clothes in which you do not feel good.
This is no longer relevant for a young man from to ask the hand of a young girl to her father will you tell me After all times change, it even happens nowadays that these are the women who kneel down.
That's quite true, but can you be sure that this is also what the person you are going to apply to think about? Do you know his parents or did you subtly dodge all the opportunities to meet them?
Far be it from me to say that if you don't have this approval it's a waste of time. But be sure of one thing, if it is important for your future half family approval, trying to avoid this step will not work in your favor. At best at the critical moment you will experience a temporary or permanent refusal. At worst it will resurface with each argument after your marriage ...
You should try to find out his opinion on the subject. Besides, there may be reasons behind this ..
What do you know about your partner's culture?
The uniqueness of your partner's culture is not something you can afford to ignore. Knowing her will help you do things right.
Each culture, region, religion, country and social class has a different way of celebrating marriage and the stages that lead to it. There are many different and fascinating traditions and customs that people all over the world follow.
In some cases this involves the exchange of gifts between families and couples, for example. It is a form of respect to know how to be attentive to this kind of thing.
"If the practice of a religion is part of the daily life of your future half, you should find out if there are any particularities linked to the union of 2 people" someone told me. And one might think that this advice is only valid in the case of two different cultures, but not only.
What is your state of mind?
Am I making a mistake? We barely know each other ! What knee to put on the ground? What if I am entitled to a “No” in public? This diamond may be too small… I think I forgot what I meant… Wasn't I writing an article?
Stop! Stop! You already have a knee on the ground and your laces are done. It's time to say what you have on your heart.
This may seem contradictory to you after all that has been said, but be prepared to forget all of the previous paragraphs. Each couple is different and each situation is different. Keep in mind that like all rules, these too are meant to be broken.
If you wake up for 1 hour to watch him snore while thinking of your little fights with a smile on his face. And when you open her eyes you only want to tell her “I no longer imagine my life without you”Then go ahead. Even without a ring it can be worth it.
Avoid doing it anyway after an overly wet evening, the message may not be completely received ^^.
More seriously, if you share a real bond, whether it's been going through your head for a while, or if you are already ready to start. Without your mother repeating it every day of course ... Once in front of the plane's door, don't think too much ... Jump!
One of the best ways to miss is to never make up your mind to do it.
Whatever the age, the human heart opens only to the one who opens in return
And in fact? How to succeed in my marriage proposal?
Deciding to make your marriage proposal can be one of the most stressful times in a couple's life. And I'm not exaggerating when I say that for some people it is even more so than the marriage itself.
There are many who would like to have the perfect recipe for the "yes!" so anticipated. And on the net you will easily find guides that will present the most romantic, original, funny, lettered wedding proposals Or other. (I will put a small selection in video for you a little further down).
But there is no perfect way for it. No foolproof methods. Just inspiration maybe like on this page.
This is an important decision that we usually take alone in the hope of being two at the finish. So if you really want to put the odds on your side, think above all about making him happy. Ask yourself what this person would like or not like. If on a daily basis you already make him want to share your life ...
Because after all this proposal is more a question of substance than of form. I have witnessed marriage proposals in the privacy of the beaches of Mexico ... But also in the midst of relatives, friends and passers-by in the middle of Hong-Kong ... And you have surely seen someone answer "Yes!" even before the question is asked ...
The way is important but it is well before asking the question that a lot of things are played out.
However, as I mentioned a little above, it remains an opportunity to send a message. So if you are apprehensive about this exercise, the best advice I can give is: Practice and stay yourself. Be authentic! Take notes if it helps you there is no shame in it.
What knee to put down for a marriage proposal? (Bonus)
Several times I have been asked the same question ... What a knee to put on the ground to make her marriage proposal and not miss? Here is what I could find on the subject. The short answer is: the left knee. The wedding ring box in the left hand ready to be opened with the right hand.
And why will you tell me? It is above all a tradition. The fact of putting the knee on the ground is a form of "submission". A way of saying I offer my life to you as certain men did in front of their king when they became a knight, ready to give their lives for him.
According to some works of theology, the fact of put the right knee on the ground is reserved for God. Depending on your beliefs you can choose to follow the traditions or not. Be careful not to get stuck on the ground if you have knee problems. And avoid putting both knees, the pose is much less elegant than with just one.
One last tip!
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And let go in comments: What did you think of the article? What would be the ideal marriage proposal for you? And if you have already done it, did everything really go as you imagined? I leave you with a little Top as promised.
See you soon.